• Julie

The secret to living your best life is learning what you can control

What is control and how does it rule your life?


The definition of control is the power to influence or direct people’s behavior or the course of events.

You may have been taught from a young age that you must control your life. If you don’t someone else will.


Does this sound familiar?



Let’s take a look at some common phrases surrounding the word control:

--> “You are out of control!” (Signifies a loss of control in any area of your life)

--> “If you don’t take control, I will” (If you don’t get a handle on this situation, someone else will take over)

--> “You need to take control of your life” (Only you know what this situation needs and you should control the outcome)

--> “I just lost it!” (A loss of control around one’s sanity, physicality, you have lost your grip on y our “normal”)

--> “Pull yourself together!” (You have lost control of a situation, your emotions or both)


Why do we feel the need to control everything?


Life is not always easy and frequently we find that not everything is lining up the way we think it should.


We try to control our spouses and we want them to give us the reaction we want to a situation, not what their true response is.


We work with our horses and want to “control” their thoughts, temperament and physical moves so that it matches up with our perceived notion of what perfect looks like.


We love to control our job and focus on every minute detail thinking that if A + B = C is true, then by controlling A & B we will get C.