• Julie

How to Reclaim Your Confidence



The definition of confidence is the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust. Everyone knows that trust is needed in many areas of our lives.


For example:

  • If you are a rider, you need to have trust in not only your abilities but also that your horse can learn right along with you.

  • In the work world, you need to trust that you have the skills needed for your job and that you are smart enough to do and learn more to be eligible for promotions.

  • If you are an entrepreneur you need to know in your gut that you can run the company, hire the right people and put out a great product.

What happens when you don’t trust yourself?

  • What if you recently lost a large client and now feel unsure as to what direction to go in next?

  • What if you had an accident on your horse and now have lost confidence in your abilities?

Living in this world without the trust and knowledge that you can accomplish what you set out to do, whether it be in your work life, hobbies or even family life, will diminish your chances of success and quickly take you off course.


Even more important, confidence in the face of adversity is the hallmark of champions and there will be days where your patience, knowledge and attitude are tested.


The answer to gaining back your confidence is threefold:


1. KEEP YOUR EXPECTATIONS REALISTIC


This does not mean that you are to let go of what you’ve been chasing, or that you should stop trying to be the best. What it does mean is that you need to check in and make sure that your expectations are jiving with your schedule, environment, money and time needed to make it happen.


Do you truly have enough in each of those buckets to make that expectation come true? Maybe you need more time to earn $10,000 per month, if so - be lenient with yourself and stay flexible. Make sure you set yourself up for success and not failure. Don’t have a pie in the sky expectation of yourself that you know you won’t achieve simply because you have not factored in enough time or resources to make it happen.