Are you someone who is always working on a goal and waiting to be happy until after you have met that goal? Are you in an emotional holding pattern and telling yourself you will be happy in the future after your dreams come true?
If so, this is a good time to review your goals and discuss how to be happy now, even if you don’t accomplish what you set out to do. Goals can be difficult to attain and take a long period of time to achieve. If you are waiting to be happy until you reach your goal, you are putting today’s happiness on hold for a date in the future that may never occur.
Many times the goals you want to complete won’t happen. There are many reasons why goals are not realized, and I wanted to give you an example of why putting off today’s happiness is negatively affecting your life.
Most of us were taught to design our life using goals. We start out with big SMART goals (if you don’t know what a SMART goal is click here), and work backwards to achieve those goals with smaller bite-size activities to reach the larger goal.
Once you complete a goal, you instantly create another benchmark to move towards because that is how you design an incredible life, right? Never settle and don’t stop reaching so that you can stretch beyond your current comfortability and rise to a new level of mastery.
WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU DON’T REACH YOUR GOAL
The staggering and painful truth is that over time, there will inevitably be goals that you won’t be able to complete. Below is a common scenario that many people including yours truly have gone through:
Your Big Amazing Goal: To lose 20 pounds over the next 2 months.
You decide you want to take some weight off your frame and start going to the gym on a regular basis. You want to lose 20 pounds and you figure you will work out every other day and change your diet by cutting out the junk food. You weigh yourself on day one and by day 30 you are feeling really good about your new health regime. You have been eating well and exercising, but when you step on the scale you have only lost 8 pounds. You think to yourself “Ok, it’s not that bad, I still have time.”
Over the next month, you increase your workouts and are still making healthy food choices, but when you step on the scale at the 60 day mark, you have only lost another 6 pounds. That’s a total of 14 pounds lost, yet you did not reach your goal of losing 20 pounds in 2 months. You have you worked so hard and are sick and tired so you say “Screw this! I have been working my tail off and I’m not making the kind of progress I should. I quit!” You go into a tailspin, stop working out and begin to eat junk food. Within one month you are right back to the weight you started at when you first began your program. Sound familiar?